Life getting you down?
Perhaps you can’t move to another place at the moment because you lack the funds.
Or maybe for some reason, you can’t leave your negative family behind without feeling guilty or irresponsible.
These feelings are quite common.
This week I’ve been reading some thoughts from Michael Lee.
I think he brings some great insight.
But first, let me remind you that EVERYONE suffers negative thoughts and emotions in their lives. It is how we handle them that make the difference to our progress, or the lack of it.
Our choice is quite simple: we can either be affected by negativity in the short term, OR we can learn from our ‘experiences’ for long term gain.
Sometimes it can be hard to stay positive and happy. Negative people, things, and circumstances can make your life a living hell… but avoiding them is easier said than done.
Perhaps you can’t move to another place at the moment because you lack the funds. Or maybe for some reason, you can’t leave your negative family behind without feeling guilty or irresponsible.
In this case, you need to deal with the negativities head on instead of avoiding them. Here are 10 simple ways to do that:”
You’ll find Michael’s thoughts in full on Steven Aitchison’s blog here: http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/10-ways-stay-positive-happy-face-negativity/
Here’s a list of ten actions Michael suggests, with my comments and observations:
1) Make A Conscious Effort To Find The Positive Side In Everything.
Oftentimes, you can’t control what happens to you; but you can certainly respond in the most positive way possible. Look for the good side in everything.
If someone criticized you harshly, thank him for his valuable insight and see if there’s any lesson you can learn.
If your friend arrived one hour later than your scheduled time or didn’t fulfill his promise, don’t lash out at him. See it as an opportunity to develop your character (patience) and a chance to find out who your real friends are.
If something upsets you, change your perception from having an “annoying” experience to a “fascinating” one.
Here’s a harsh reality – you might be attracting the negativity you’re experiencing now. So, if you want to start manifesting favorable results, be positive from the inside out… in your thoughts, words, and actions.”
Understand that others, too, are having their own challenges.
Not everything is about you.
However, how you respond is YOUR responsibility.
Lashing out at others for perceived slights or ‘impolite behaviour’ that you take personally (which, sometimes, may not even be intended) is a flaw you need to work on in your quest to be a better person.
2) Have A Gratitude List.
It’s almost impossible to feel depressed if you have so many things to be grateful for. No matter how bad things may turn out, you’re still in a much better position than many other people on earth.
Can you see, hear, walk, or talk? Do you have people in your life who love you? Can you eat at least 3 times a day? Do you have a home? These are just some of the little blessings you could appreciate.
And there are lots of bigger blessings you could be grateful for!
Write them down in your journal or index card, then read them every chance you get. You’ll attract more blessings as a result, and you’ll feel much better too.”
Do You Display Gratitude?
Most of the people who will read this should get a reality jolt about things they simply take for granted.
Perhaps you will too.
Almost all people living in a ‘western’ country have adequate accommodation, the right to drink potable water, sufficient food to eat, clean air to breathe, the right to vote in government elections, the ability to make choices, and many other rights and benefits.
You probably have those things yourself, even if you haven’t thought much about how fortunate you are.
Compare your situation with that of people who live where there is no decent accommodation, the water is dirty or tainted, food is insufficient, pollution has fouled their air, there is no right to vote and they are restricted in the choices they can make.
Now, can you make a gratitude list? Yes! You can.
3) Find Time To Laugh.
Laughter is the best stress-reliever. Bar none. Every time I laugh without reservation, I feel so ecstatic and lighthearted.
So develop the habit of laughing every day, even for just a few minutes.
Watch youtube videos of bloopers, gags, and other things that make you laugh.
Record funny experiences if possible, so you can watch them over again.
Or you can simply imagine funny scenes and situations, so you can laugh your heart out any time you want.”
Laughing Energizes You
Laughter releases endorphins that will make you feel good.
Indeed, Dr. Paul E. McGhee says:
Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.”
Many medical people say the same thing. Laugh, it’s good for you!
Here’s more from Michael Lee:
4) Don’t Give A Damn.
“This doesn’t mean you’ll stop caring about the people and events in your life; it only suggests that you cease thinking or worrying about what others might think about you.
As Aristotle said: “There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” But what a way to waste your life!
So what if they get mad about your decision, or your idea might sound impractical to them, or they don’t like the way you express yourself?
As long as you’re doing it with a clean conscience, in an ethical and responsible manner, their perception of you being “wrong” or “stupid” doesn’t matter!”
Annoyances Soon Fade
Think of something that really annoyed you, say … two months ago. Can you think of anything?
Chances are you cannot. That should put into perspective how wasteful negative emotions are. Anything which seriously upsets you today will feel less severe next week, next month, next year and so on. Understand that.
Pause to reflect on all the GOOD things in your life, rather than wasting time and energy on negative events, and those who may temporarily upset you.
5) Say Something Positive For Every Negative Statement.
Here’s a simple way to drive negative people crazy…
Counter their negative words with your positive statements! Always have something good to say to offset their negativity.
If They Say: “Most people who tried this business have failed.”
You Say: “That’s great! I’ll be one of the few people who will succeed.”
If They Say: “No one would buy your product.”
You Say: “Interesting. I’ll see what I can change to make this marketable.”
If They Say: “Why can’t you learn what I’m teaching you?”
You Say: “The first time is always the hardest. But I’ll keep practicing until I get it right.”
If you can’t think of any positive reply, just say “thank you for your opinion” and carry on.
If you keep doing this, your positive attitude might rub off on them or they might give up being negative around you. Either way, you win!”
This is VERY good advice.
People who spew nothing but negativity in almost everything they say can become tiresome.
By turning every negative comment into a positive one they may find ‘comfort’ in sharing their woes with others (who are more attuned to negativity), rather than you.
As a final comment on this aspect, consider whether there ever been a monument or a plaque or a statue erected to a truly negative thinker?
6) Develop Your Spirituality.
“Having faith in a higher power can do wonders for your life.
If you’re a Christian, filling your mind with the image of God can give you the inner peace you crave.
You could also write down passages from the Bible in an index card and bring it everywhere you go. Whenever you feel down or stressed out, read the quotes aloud to build your courage and spiritual strength.
“If God is for us, then who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31)
“I can do anything through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)
“If ye have faith, then nothing is impossible unto you.” (Matthew 17:20)
However, you don’t need to have any religious affiliation to develop your spirituality. The key is to build deep spiritual faith by attuning yourself to your inner consciousness.
Spend some quiet time each day reflecting and getting in touch with the universal energy that is all around you. Believe in your heart that this universal power is always available at your disposal.”
Many people find comfort in their faith.
Indeed, when close to death, many people have the ‘last rites’ administered to them and take solace in that.
7) Listen to Motivational Speakers Any Chance You Get.
As negativities and challenges arise, our motivation wanes out and we begin to doubt if we could ever achieve our goals.
To continue staying positive and inspired, I go to youtube and watch my favorite motivational speakers every single day, and they never fail to light a fire under my butt.
Listening to Jim Rohn, Les Brown, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Tony Robbins, Brian Tracy, and other international speakers has brought dramatic changes to my life.
I recommend listening to them any chance you get; but the best times are in the morning after you wake up (so you could start your day right) and in the evening before you go to sleep (so your subconscious could better “absorb” the principles you’ve learned).”
Motivation is temporary.
Anything can nudge or bump or smash us off course. Therefore, we need a regular ‘dose’ of motivation. It has been said that it takes around 30 days of constant effort and dedication to form a new habit.
Try 30 days of motivational input EVERY day, without fail.
Even better, make it 50 days. By then, it will become an ingrained habit and you will want to continue it.
ZSM even has a personal development, self-mastery course that will help you.
8) Live A Healthy Life.
“Negative people and things can stress you out of your wits and weaken your immune system, so live as healthy as you can to stay resilient in the face of pessimism.
Here are some suggestions:
– Eat organic fruits and vegetables as much as possible.
– Avoid processed and sugary foods.
– Get at least 7 to 8 hours of sleep daily.
– Exercise at least 5 hours spread throughout the week.
– Practice breathing exercises.
– Spend quiet time meditating.
Follow simple healthy habits to gain a positive mental, emotional, and physical advantage as you overcome each negativity that comes your way.”
It has been said that ‘you are what you eat.’
A motor vehicle will not run properly if you put the wrong fuel in it.
A constant diet of junk food will make you lethargic.
Living a healthy life means doing all that you can to improve your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.
9) Give To Charity.
“The act of giving some money and/or time to charity can boost your happiness and spiritual health.
As you focus more on how you can give or be of service to others, the less attention you’ll be paying to the negative people and things around you.
And as you contribute to the betterment of the less fortunate, your perspective in life will change and you’ll realize how much luckier you are compared to others.”
Think of Christmas time.
What brings you the most pleasure? Is it receiving a gift yourself, OR … is it watching a loved one or friend unwrapping the gift that you give?
An act of giving to charity includes anything you do for somebody who has little or no ability to return such a gesture to you.
10) Express Your Inner Feelings.
“We experience a great deal of relief when we’re able to let negative emotions off our chest and unload our emotional baggage.
Find someone trustworthy you could talk to and who would be willing to listen. Someone who can feel and understand what you’re going through.
If you can’t find the right person, just write down your thoughts in a journal. It will serve as an outlet where you can write down anything you want and completely release all the pain, anger, sadness, and other negative emotions inside you.”
Keeping a Journal and Confidants will Aid Your Growth.
Ensure you truly trust anyone you choose to share your inner thoughts and emotions with.
Writing your thoughts into a journal or diary is a good idea.
It releases your mind from the burden of remembering these things. In other words, you know you no longer need to remember details because you have committed them to print.
This leaves your mind to concentrate on better things.
Stop looking for reasons and excuses as to why you cannot do something and set your mind to finding reasons why you CAN!
We have enough under-achievers in this world. Become a doer: an achiever; a success. Change your perspective. Change your mindset.
Do it NOW!
Wouldn’t you like more moments of positivity, and a higher awareness of your purpose in life?
With ZSM’s 50 Day Transformation Journey, Life, Destiny, you can easily achieve the life changes you want.