A New Year, a new list?
Every New Year most of us take time to reflect, and wonder—or decide firmly—what we’ll achieve in the coming 12 months.
It’s possible you are thinking about this right now, especially if you feel you haven’t got where you wanted in 2015.
New Year Resolutions get made. And your ‘bucket list’ gets written up, or revised. The term ‘bucket list’ has lived large in our consciousness since that 2007 movie.
It’s been a while since the movie, yet the phrase still excites even after nearly a decade of popular use. A ‘bucket list’ contains all those things you want to experience before you die. You could also think of these ‘things’ as a bucket full of hopes.
What would happen if you tossed out the idea of a list?
We can’t all crisscross the world, as The Bucket List characters played by Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman did, to see sights and enjoy adventures. Even if you do it bare-bones backpacking, that sort of odyssey isn’t cheap.
Just the thought of experiencing more of the fascinating things our world offers can get your mind going.
Have you made your bucket list yet? Maybe it’s one of the things on your mind.
Do you really need a Bucket List?
Peer activity in the form of pictures posted online, invitations to complete Facebook surveys, and comments like ‘that’s on MY bucket list’ all bring pressure to not only have one, but a really ‘cool’ one.
Trips to exotic places, wow! The bolder, the better. Why wouldn’t you want to scuba-dive New Zealand’s Poor Knights Islands, or see the North-West passage for yourself, in summer, of course?
Naturally, a plain list isn’t much fun to share. And if sharing matters to you, you’ll want to impress.
To help you impress, there’s are a ton of websites with ideas.
A quick search will reveal e-books and Pinterest postings that list everything you could ever plan to experience.
In addition to experiences, many people have also noted stuff they want. Don’t we ‘all’ want things like a new house, or boat, or car, or new clothes or even a second home in a holiday location?
Ignite your imagination: create the ‘ultimate bucket list’
But should you?
- What will you get if you tick off each item?
- Will you die content, if you do everything?
- Wouldn’t ‘living’ content be a more desirable outcome?
- And how many of your items on your list involve giving something, rather than receiving experiences or things?
You may find more fulfillment with a Here and Now List.
Why not make a different sort of list?
Not a bucket list, with stuff to achieve by the end of life, but a Here and Now List, focusing your mind on who you intend to be.
- Certainly, you should travel if you think it is important to experience other cultures more closely so you can understand them.
- And if, say, your passion is to bring your impression of the world’s beauty to life for others through your camera, I hope you’ll photograph every waterfall on earth.
- Expanding yourself by learning new languages or skydiving might be just what you need to open your mind to possibilities beyond the ones you’ve accepted to date.
- These may be ideal goals, for you, in 2016.
A bucket list of things to ‘tick off’ puts attention on ‘doing’, not being’
Be still. Reflect.
- Who are you, ‘here and now’?
- And do your daily actions reflect that realisation, or do you deny your essence to be trendy, to fit in, or to be popular?
There are always exceptions, but the people we generally remember most, of all the people that ever lived, are those who inspire us.
We’re inspired more by who people are, than by what they do. We’re definitely inspired more by who they are than by what they have.
Who do you want to be each day?
Our mind can meditate on a Here and Now List today, so you can enjoy a more satisfying, fulfilling life beginning today. And attention to a Here and Now List will help you achieve any other aspiration or goals you have in life.
Does your list of aspirations include being a better parent, or upholding your values in a visible way others can imitate?
Your Here and Now List
A Here and Now List doesn’t contain things you want to experience, or see, or even things you want to have.
It’s a list of steps you are taking now to know yourself fully, and to reflect who you really are.
Your here and now list contains the things you believe in strongly, and want to uphold or defend.
It’s easy to deny what you believe, in order to be considered ‘social’, or ‘normal’. But the more you reflect on what matters, the more you’ll be inspired to show tour true essence to the world here and now.
- What matters most to you in life?
- When you meditate, which image of yourself brings the most pleasure to mind?
- What actions could you take today to reveal yourself more fully so others will know who you really are?
Start 2016 with a Here and Now List
For many, making a list that reveals who you want to be, today, is much harder than noting down that – one day – you’ll buy a ticket on an Amazon River safari.
But it would be a very meaningful gift for yourself, as 2016 begins.
Do you dare?